Why Beautiful Girls Always Have Miserable Relationships and the Conflict Between Good and Bad Boys
Jessie was an extremely beautiful girl. Everyone who laid eyes on her feels that her facial features were painted by a talented artist. The kind of artist who sells his paintings for millions. Her face was proportional and innocent. Her eyes were a light honey color. Her soft and clear skin never needed makeup. Her body was fit and conformed to international beauty standards. Her fashion style was always so elegant and classy. Her personality was a perfect mix of femininity and masculinity. She was also a very well-educated young lady who was successful. Whenever she dealt with people, they treated her differently (especially men). Men would always flirt with her. Even the clerk at her nearby supermarket offered exclusive deals just to have come around more often. On a daily basis, Jessie got approached by strange men at least twice.
Like a lot of girls, Jessie was looking for a good man to be a supportive husband to start a family with. She wanted someone who was decent and had principles. She didn’t want a womanizer or a hypocrite. That was her idea of a real man.
But Jessie was having some trouble with all the attention she was getting. It was difficult to find the right guy. She’d been approached by them all: the plumber, the clerk, actors, pilots and even people from the business world. They didn’t care that young Jessie was only 21 years old.
She had tried going out with a few guys before. She would meet a guy who looked nice and after a while would let his true colors show. It seemed to her that a lot of men viewed her as some sort of prize. Showing up with a girl like Jessie made them earn points in public. Her looks attracted a lot of narcissists and creeps. A lot of them ended up cheating on her or making her feel like an object for her looks.
Her last relationship was a nightmare that resulted in a sort of breakdown. She was seeing a very famous singer. He turned out to be insecure and bossy. He wanted to control everything her life. He asked her to give him all her passwords of all her social media accounts. That was too much for Jessie and she decided to end things. In front of cameras, he was so sweet and all for women’s rights and girls
Jessie started to believe that all men were trash. That all men would eventually cheat on their wives. This depressed Jessie greatly.
One day, Jessie was chatting with her close friend, Sarah. They were talking about her terrible relationships and how she started to view all men as cheaters and liars by nature.
“Do you really think all men are cheaters? Let me ask you something. Who do you love the most in the world?” Jessie thought for a while and said, “Of course, my father. He’s always been there for me. Especially, after we lost mom. He always made sure to hear us out. I remember him coming from work in a hurry just prepare something to eat. He would do the dishes afterwards and have conversations with us. Even though it was exhausting, he still took care of this.” She went on to say, “I’ll never forget how he would help me with my backpack and hold me hand to cross the street. My dad is different. Guys like him don’t exist.” Sarah was waiting for her finish and then asked her, “A lot of girls think that way about their dads. I hear it a lot from girls with good fathers. But when a girl has a bad father, she views all men as bad.” Sarah’s parents got divorced when she was a kid. He used to beat her and this made Sarah hate men. “In your case, your father is a good man, Jessie. You know Jennifer? She also says that her dad is so sweet and talks about how he is the best dad ever. How he took care of her when she was a teenager even though he was sick. And guess what--She thinks just like you!” Sarah went on to explain, “Take Rihanna, for example; her dad used to beat her. I heard he cut her hair once because she rude to him. He is unbearable, really. Her dad is a control freak. She once caught him on the phone with another lady. He also cheats! Can you imagine? Poor Rihanna thinks all men are bad.” Jessie was listening carefully. She knew Sarah had a point and wanted to hear more. “It doesn’t make sense to say all men are bad. Our choices have a lot to do with it. I know most guys out there wouldn’t be compatible with you or me. But our choices matter. It is our role to choose men like your father and Jennifer’s father.
The whole situation reminded Jessie of Fermi’s paradox and she asked, “If good men exist, why don’t we see them? How do spot them? How can we tell the bad ones from the good ones?” Sarah didn’t have the answers to those questions. “All I know is that not all men are monsters. It’s in our hands to choose the good and avoid the bad. Why don’t you talk to someone? Like a therapist.”
Jessie sighed and said, “I have seen five of them. They are good and everything, but not a single one knew how to tackle my problem. I mean, they were helpful with other things. With relationships, they just give you general advice. Nothing special.” Sarah grabbed her laptop and a dark website appeared.
Sarah said, “This website is called Carrots. It’s really cool. You can post a mission with a need of yours and this helps you find different people. I have used it to gather information before. You can find pictures. You can ask for different currencies. Some people use Carrots to find missing pets. You post your need in the form of a mission and wait for someone to reply.” Sarah told her about how she once had used Carrots to buy an expensive watch in North Korea for her. She mentioned how It was secure and safe even though the individual was anonymous.
Jessie had an idea. She wanted to post a mission asking for someone who had the same situation as she. She needed someone she could relate to. Someone who understood what it felt like to be Jessie. She focused a lot on the details of the mission. She asked for a beautiful and strong woman who had the same issue with men approaching her. Someone who shared the same lifestyle as Jessie. She wanted her to be married. She wanted to learn about that woman’s experience to identify the problem. Jessie felt silly saying all of that, but Sarah chuckled and told her not to be embarrassed. You can find all sorts of things on Carrots. Sarah told her about the missions she had seen on Carrots. She remembered the one with the guy who needed to be hugged to fight off his depression. Also, she remembered the mission asking for a lion’s paw. She explained that some missions are just different and not all are suitable for all users.
A few hours after posting the mission, Jessie found Ariana. Ariana was just like Jessie. She really related to her when she saw the mission. She wanted to help Jessie. “I was just like you before I married Adam. I remember how bad relationships were.” She went on to explain how a friend had recommended a doctor who specialized in relationships and emotional problems. “I discovered through my talks with her how I had been tricked at first by the men in my life. It made me view all men as cheaters and liars. It was extreme.” Ariana had reached a level where she published a Facebook page that was very anti-men. At the time, Ariana found men to be nothing more than animals. “It was bad like that for a while. I started to feel that I couldn’t continue like that. I wanted to be a mother, but after hearing about how women I knew had a rough time after getting divorced, I knew it would be wrong to put children through that.” Until one day, she met Dr. Sia, who helped her understand why she was feeling that way. She was able to see clearly and later met Adam. He was just the right man for her. Ariana gave Jessie the good doctor’s number and wished her luck.
Jessie had booked an appointment with the doctor for Thursday at 8 PM. Jessie was there on time and ready to begin her session. When Jessie met the doctor, she felt as if the doctor knew what she wanted to say. The doctor had met a lot of girls like Jessie. Their session lasted three hours and a half. Jessie told her about her relationships and the men in her life. Dr. Sia just supported her and listened to what the young girl needed to say. When she was finished, the doctor gave her a gentle smile and said, “I could tell what your problem was as soon as I saw you.”
By taking advantage of the benefits Carrots has to offer, Jessie was able to start dealing with her relationship problems.
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